Tips of getting along with a difficult partner

Are you in a relationship with or married to someone that you feel is
difficult (or trying to be)? Are you willing to try your best in making
it work out? If you answer 'Yes' to both questions, then the following
tips might assist in your quest of a better relationship with your
spouse.
1. Know why you are in the relationship as well as your partner's too.

You must know why you are in the relationship and what you want
to achieve in it. A lot of people feel they have no choice and just
have to go along anyhow it comes either because that was how they
were raised or do not realize that it could be different or better. Be
sure you know why you are in the relationship with someone and
well as know your partner's stand on it as well, because the reason
for the relationship being difficult might be because you both don't
have a common goal relationship wise.
2. Try to know why your partner is being difficult:

People are difficult because they want to get something from it
which could be anything, and the mere fact that that need or desire
is not being meet could bring out their negative side. Know if it's
something you're doing wrong (or not doing at all), his wanting to
dominate, get attention at all time, selfishness, your attitude toward
things etc. Try to observe if he is being difficult with just you or with
everyone. Know what brings up his being difficult; is it during
arguments, while making plans, when making request, when
someone chastise or correct him or speaks with
hostility…..anything! If you can know the real reason your partner is
being difficult, then you have achieved a lot in calming the storm.
3. Ask questions:

Knowledge they say is power, and with power you can achieve your
goal. Ask your spouse if he is aware of what he's doing. Ask questions to know the way forward, ask questions for clarifications, ask questions to know what he really want, ask questions to know
what he want from you, ask questions to know how you could be of assistance, ask questions to know if he knows his action is hurting you, ask questions to know if you really can continue, ask questions to know what is the best for both of you.
4. Know where you are getting it wrong:

Do you know the problem might actually be from you? You could
actually be the reason he is being difficult and acting nasty; do you
raise your voice at the same time he does thereby escalating the
issue? Do you always counter his decisions unnecessarily? Do you
apologize when you are wrong? Do you showing appreciation for
those little things? Have you suddenly gone relaxed and not do
those exciting things you do when you guys just met? Do you bring
up hurt and anger from the past? Do you assign blames? Do you nag
him all the time? Please watch it as you actually might be the cause
of the awful attitude.

Good luck in your desire in making your relationship work, and don't
hesitate to share with those you feel needs it as well.

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